You have been making Dua for months or even years and you start wondering, why is my Dua not being accepted by Allah, why isn’t anything happening? Despair seeps slowly into your heart and you are on the verge of giving it all up.
It is possible that you might be doing certain actions that can invalidate your Dua.
1. Setting the wrong intention
Having a bad intention for a dua nullifies its purpose. For example, making dua to Allah to help you cheat on your test without getting caught is not something you’d want to say. This dua is completely invalid and sinful, because, well… you know, cheating is haram.
2. Setting a time-limit for the dua to be accepted
“If my dua is not accepted within the next month, I am not going to make dua anymore” is not something you’d want to tell yourself either after making your dua.
When Allah (SWT) wants to grant us a blessing it is because of His generosity, not because it’s our right.
3. Making dua for someone’s misery
Wishing for someone to lose a blessing because you want it for yourself is absolutely terrible. Making dua to Allah (SWT) for that to happen is even worse.
Feeling jealous and envious of others will do nothing but drown you into an endless abyss of darkness, leaving you feeling miserable.
You’re probably thinking now, “Yeah, but we are human beings and we can’t help but wish for things we want that other people have”, right?
So what should you do instead?
Can you still wish for that blessing? Yes. BUT instead of making dua for them to lose what they have and for you to gain it, why not simply ask Allah to bless that person with what they currently have AND give you the same as well?
Not only will that make you feel better but inshAllah Allah (SWT) will grant you greater things.
عن أنس رضي الله عنه عن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قال: “لا يؤمن أحدكم حتى يحب لأخيه ما يحب لنفسه” ((متفق عليه)) .
The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “No one of you becomes a true believer until he likes for his brother what he likes for himself”
4. Making dua that negates the reality
Making dua to Allah to make your plant grow into a tree in one day is unrealistic and invalid.
Allah (SWT) is of course capable of anything, nonetheless, we are on this dunya and therefore live according to the laws that Allah (SWT) created for this universe.
I haven’t been doing any of these actions so why is my dua still not accepted?
عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم: مَا مِنْ مُسْلِمٍ يَدْعُو، لَيْسَ بِإِثْمٍ وَلاَ بِقَطِيعَةِ رَحِمٍ، إِلاَّ أَعْطَاهُ إِحْدَى ثَلاَثٍ: إِمَّا أَنْ يُعَجِّلَ لَهُ دَعْوَتَهُ، وَإِمَّا أَنْ يَدَّخِرَهَا لَهُ فِي الْآخِرَةِ، وَإِمَّا أَنْ يَدْفَعَ عَنْهُ مِنَ السُّوءِ مِثْلَهَا، قَالَ: إِذًا نُكْثِرُ، قَالَ: اللَّهُ أَكْثَرُ.
The Prophet, may Allah grant him peace, said, “No Muslim makes supplication – unless he is someone who has cut off his relatives – but that he is given one of three things: either his supplication is answered quickly, or it is stored up for him in the Next World, or an evil equal to it is averted from him.” It was said, “Then many supplications will be made.” He replied, “Allah has more still to give.”
To answer this question, as you can see from the above Hadith you should know that one of three things is expected to the Dua we make.
1- Allah (SWT) will answer the dua in this dunya
This option is definitely the outcome we all yearn for because naturally, human beings are impatient and hasty. I mean who wouldn’t want instant results, right? But again we are on this dunya and as I mentioned previously, our patience will be tested.
2- Allah (SWT) will save your dua for the Hereafter
Imagine scraping in your proverbial barrel of good deeds, on the day of judgment, for whatever little you can find. Then suddenly you are rewarded with a pile of them. Where did all these hasanat come from? Remember every unanswered dua? They are now manifested in the form of hasanat that can be your ticket to Jannah.
3- Allah (SWT) will prevent something bad happening equal to the value of the dua.
Allah (SWT) will reject your dua and grant you something better.
Like preventing you from going on a certain trip, only to realize you could’ve been harmed because maybe that plane crashes or I don’t know, you could’ve gotten mugged or something. Or not marrying a certain person, because there is in fact a much more compatible person for you.
Allah (SWT) always knows what’s best for us even if that means we have to wait a tad longer. Our level of maturity changes greatly as we grow older and have more life experiences. What you wanted 6 or 7 years ago is probably different than what you want now.
After patience, great things await
Keep being patient and beware of despair as it is from the Shaytan. You can be one Dua away from having what you desire inshAllah.
Let me know in the comments what other practices you think can invalidate our Duas.